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The Refined Collective Podcast

Jan 21, 2021

Afton Vechery is the founder and CEO of Modern Fertility. If you’ve been around for a while, you know we’ve talked about fertility a few times on the podcast. If you’re thinking “I’m not trying to have kids yet,” “I’m focusing on my career right now,” or “I don’t even know if I want to have kids,” you should still care about your reproductive health! And Afton is here to help break it down for you!


Reasons to track your cycle:

  1. If you’re trying to get pregnant
  2. If you have irregular cycles
  3. If you’re getting off of birth control
  4. So you can understand your unique cycle
  5. To get to know + be connected to your body 
  6. Knowledge is power!!


The Fertility Information Gap


  • “It was so empowering… Women were demanding more information about their bodies so they could make the decisions that were right for them.”


  • Most of the information out there is about preventing pregnancy and is very fear-based— there was a gap in fertility information so Modern Fertility filled that space.
  • Fertility just isn’t a priority until we start having issues conceiving. 
  • Egg-freezing, IVF, hormonal birth control and kids may not be for everyone, but information is for everyone.


AMH Testing 101

  • I share my own AMH test level results that were shocking to me.
  • How often should you test your AMH? 1-2x a year
  • AMH levels remain consistent throughout the cycle, but FSH (follicle stimulating hormones) + estradiol change throughout your cycle. Because of this, you should use the test on day 3 of your cycle.


  • “We wanted to take these tests that are largely confined to infertility clinics and make them mainstream.”



3 Ways to jumpstart your fertility journey:

  1. BE OPEN: Be willing to look into this + start talking and researching fertility. “This is an area of our health that’s changing.”
  2. Get up to speed with the basics.
  3. Be proactive vs. reactive.


“Have a conversation about fertility. Fertility is a part of reproductive health and reproductive health is just a part of our general health.”



I was tired of hearing male pastors preach about waiting until marriage for sex when they had gotten married in their early 20s and had no idea what it was really like to date in today’s culture! I wanted to hear from someone in my shoes— so I wrote a book! It’s called Sexless in the City: A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and Sex and it’s coming out in April 2021! Head over to to pre-order now!

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