Aug 14, 2018
Kait Warman is an LA-based lifestyle blogger, inspirational
speaker, creator of the podcast “The Heart of Dating”, and
co-founder of the creative content company Kait Kat. She is a dear
friend and single Christian woman. She is particularly focused on
heartbreak and relationships. And her mission is to empower
women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, and
thrive with purpose. Her hope is that the dating world will change.
Today we talk all about navigating the world of dating as Christian
women in 2018.
Dating Stories: The Good, the Bad, and the
tells me about her worst date. She dressed up all fancy for
their reservations at a nice Italian restaurant… and
he was wearing gym shorts, Nike slides--you know
the kind you wear in the shower, and wet hair. Like did he
forget they were going on a date, and remember when he was
talk about how men think women’s expectations are astronomical, but
they really are not. It’s the little things, and the thought
and detail that matter. Whether a walk in the park with a coffee,
or remembering something specific from a previous conversation and
following-up on that.
- “It doesn’t matter where your bank account is, it
matters where your heart is.”
- “I want you to dress up however you like, and be ready for a
surprise evening.” –the best date
Kait has ever been on. (Of course I had to ask her what her best
date was if I asked her what her worst date was).
- There was romantic jazz music,
and a French restaurant involved, you guys. And then, they
saw La La Land
at the Hollywood Bowl with a live
orchestra!! All the feels y’all.
- She loves when a guy puts
thought and research into a date, but recognizes it goes both
ways. “We can also plan dates for guys.”
Drop the Hanky
talk about how women like to be pursued. But also what it’s
like to create space in an inviting and feminine way--not
manipulative--to let a brotha know you’re interested.
in the day, a woman would sit in a café, make eye contact with a
man, and drop her hanky. This was an invitation for him to come
pick it up. It let him know she was interested in him. How
can we practice droppin’
the hanky today
talks about the book
How to get a Date Worth
Keeping by Henry
Cloud and being active in finding a man.
- “Girl, unless you’re
going to be marrying the FedEx guy, God is not going to be dropping
a man at your doorstep.”
are so many places to meet a guy, and you gotta to be open to it
looking differently than you thought it would look for
from dating, just be open to small conversations with people in the
name of being friendly and present. “We just
want to be seen.”
- Practice the art of being curious.
- “There’s so much beauty
in recognizing the value of people, even in small
The Heart of Dating, The Fear of Dating
all have rocky relationship pasts, but discussion of this came to
the forefront of Kait’s life in the last few years.
Bible doesn’t have a lot to say about dating in particular.
But man does it have wisdom. We all need more resources
The Heart of Dating
is that resource.
- “For me, what would be
most impactful is just starting the
recognizes that she has wrapped up her identity in past
relationships, and she fears having that happen again.
- “My whole life battle and
journey has been in seeking affirmation in men.”
- Recognizing fears is one thing, and moving
through them is another. We can’t box up fear and let them sit in
our minds. They’ll just fester.
- “That box is never going to disappear unless you
sort through it and get rid of it.”
- She took the time to write out
all of the lies she has been telling herself. Then, she replaced
those lies with truths. She took control of her own
- “God, I am going to reroute my thoughts. I am going to take
every thought captive and make them obedient to you. I want to
renew my thoughts.”
What She Has Learned
don’t have just one soul mate. Just think if one person in the
whole of human existence made a mistake--the whole thing would
crumble. The one becomes the one when we choose them, and then
continue to choose them each day. If you want to read more
about this, read
Search by Gary
important to recognize that we need to be using our time of
singleness wisely. This is something we have learned through a
mutual podcast guest, Jon Tyson!
people an opportunity and step out of your comfort zones! Be open
to God’s plans.
You can find Kait over at
@kaitness and @heartofdating. Go start a conversation with her,
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