Oct 18, 2018
“Words not for the ears, but for the
soul.” This is Arielle Estoria’s mantra. She is a
writer, speaker, and creative based in Los Angeles, CA. When
Arielle was invited to speak in Nashville, TN, at Aboundco, she was
given total freedom to write whatever she wanted. She graciously
shares what she wrote with me and you! One line that stands out for
me is “When is the last time you danced with your
creator?” Tune in to the episode to hear her
beautiful poem and our conversation about love, prayer, and
Faith and Love
- We talk about what it means to navigate life as a single woman
of faith today.
- When you are longing for a relationship, it is easy to focus
just on that and not focus on yourself in the present.
- “I have been called to speak and to teach and to
preach just as a man has been called to speak and to teach and to
- One of Arielle’s very first events she read a poem at, she had
a woman approach her and ask her “Do you ever wonder if God spent
as much time with Eve as he spent with Adam?” This is a thought
that revisits her constantly and we explore what comes up for her
when she thinks about it.
- “Before she even knew that there was a man anywhere
near or for her, she only knew her creator.”
Seasons of Life
- In any season of life, there are a lot of opportunities to
learn about yourself. “There’s always those shadow
spaces you probably ignore.”
- As an enneagram type 4, she recognizes that her feelings
- She has found that she has to sit and assess situations that
she feels hurt by. “Not everything has to hurt your
- In her season of singleness, she has come to learn a lot,
particularly the importance of calling out your desire.
- Arielle wants a man with blue eyes who is kind to everyone
around him. And guess what? She is allowed to desire both of those
- God is always listening. “Even my smallest of
desires and wants and needs, you take them and you consider the
whole of them.”
- Arielle notes that we can be so obsessed with something we’ve
lost that we can’t see what is coming our way. God is always
opening doors for us.
- “It’s not going to look like how you think it’s
going to look.” And that is always a good thing, even
if we don’t know it in the moment.
- “There are so many little things that we need to
figure out for ourselves before we can ever be who we need to be
with another person.”
- The grass always seems greener, but we acknowledge the freedom
of the season of singleness. It’s important to enjoy the season
you’re in, no matter which season it is.
- “The highs are going to be high and the lows are
going to be low and we have to take in every part of each one of
Want more of Arielle? You can check out her website, Instagram, and
Twitter. She also
has two books on Amazon right now called “Vagabonds
& Zealots” and “Write
Bloody, Spill Pretty.” I hope she inspired you as much as she
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