Nov 20, 2018
Do you guys ever send out an email and think ‘this person
probably won’t get back to me, but I’ll try anyway’? Me too. Except
I got a reply back, and now I got the opportunity to talk with Bob
Goff!! (I may have been a little nervous and it may or may not be
obvious.) I am inspired by the way he discusses faith, Jesus,
loving others, and living a life of adventure. A two-time New York
Times best-selling author, Bob
Love Does and Everybody
Always. You HAVE to get Love Does as a Christmas gift for all
of the kiddos in your life. Get your notebooks out; Bob came with
- When I was reading his book, I was astonished when he said his
child got into skydiving. He talks about the balance between
manipulation and support as a parent.
- “If you’re waving off on things because you’re just
afraid, I would double check the return address on
- He talks about his experience landing planes (he’s pretty much
a pro) and telling the air traffic controller that he is a student
pilot so they’ll be nicer to him and help him out. He takes it
further by saying we should be students in every aspect of life
which will bring about more kindness in the world.
- Personally, I have a need to be right. As a former lawyer, Bob
used to have a need to be right.
- Reading his book, I was struck when he said, “We
can be correct and not right.”
- A sports analogy for you: If you want to be right, you are the
referee. But Bob sees the other roles you can take on. The
cheerleader supports. The mascot represents something greater. We
can choose which role we want to fill.
- “If applause is the goal, join the
- “The people who are most engaged in their lives are
actually taking notes on them.”
- He stresses the idea of capturing everything he talks about.
“These things come by you like butterflies, and you
don’t have your net out.”
- Even in simple conversations, we can become more engaged simply
by taking notes. It honors the other person.
- If you don’t take notes, a conversation full of wisdom has just
blown by you, uncaptured.
- “You should walk away having learned more about
yourself or more about them.”
- Hebrews 11:1 “Faith is confidence in what we hope
for and assurance about what we do not see.”
- Bob wanted to build some schools. The idea was that the money
made from his Love Does book sales would go toward building a
school. After selling several million copies, the reach has
- Love Does Org now has built schools in Uganda, Somalia, and
- His book encourages discussions between parents and
- “One of the things I want to do is just have us
have more reasons to be talk with each other and reading stories to
Finding Your Calling
- We discuss how people often quit when things get hard, but
quitting should always be a reflection that you have evolved past
where you were.
- “It’s the wedding of a capability and an
opportunity… Your capability may not be your
- We talk about how our decisions can be guided by faith,
insecurity, and fear.
- “Let yourself know that you are entitled to
- “If you take away what you’re known for and you
replace it with what you’re longing for, then that would be the
beginning of a real
Bob challenges all of us to sit down with a friend and say we
want to have an authentic conversation. Then share first what we’re
known for then who we really are. “Get in
touch with these authentic relationships.”
You can keep up with Bob at his website, the Love Does website, and the Dream Big Framework
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