Aug 24, 2020
Shillcutt is a nationally renowned cardiac anesthesiologist and
has witnessed gender-bias in her field. She’s also seen women
withdraw and conceal their leadership. We ended up having a
completely different conversation than we had planned because we
started chatting about the idea of ‘bossiness.’ Do you ever stop
and think of how many times you say “I’m sorry” throughout the day
to make others feel more comfortable and diminish your own
experience? We dive into why that is.
It’s Okay to be Bossy
- We chat about how our tendency to apologize for
everything dims our own light .
- “We constantly have to ask ourselves: do we have
permission to be ourselves today?”
- Even if we call someone out on inappropriate behavior, we can
fall into saying, “I’m sorry, but…” Dr. Sasha now says, “Can you
repeat that?” You shouldn’t have to apologize to make someone else
feel better about their inappropriate behavior.
- “Being bossy saves lives. Taking action saves
Two Strategic Ways to Lead Like a Boss
- Leading statements
- When you’re going into an assertive position, this is what you
have to do: for the next five minutes you’re going to clearly
define where you see [whatever project you’re working on] and
you’re doing it this way so you can share clearly your stance.
- If you anticipate getting emotional, say, “I’m not upset; I’m
just super passionate about this.”
- The next time you’re in a room where a woman asserts herself,
Four Ways to Negotiate Like a Boss (Even When You Don’t
Know What You’re Doing)
- Know your non-negotiables and your bottom line
- Get clear on the things that you will NOT do
- Be willing to walk away from something good because you know
you’re worth something amazing
- Realize your power
- Start talking with women about how much you’re making
- Sallie Krawcheck, the CEO and co-founder of Ellevest
shared, “61% of womenwould rather talk
about their own death than talk about money.”
- Know what the other party wants from you
- How do you know what the other party wants?
- What are the 3 highest goals for me this year?
- How do you optimize yourself in those 3 areas?
- There’s power in being the candidate that negotiates
- As women, we just feel grateful we got the job
- Think long-term
- This breakthrough will support future women
- “I’m not just negotiating for Sasha, I’m
negotiating for my family, my daughters coming behind me, my
friends who are women. I’m negotiating for all of them and that
- Keep up with Dr. Sasha Shillcutt at com and on IG at @becomebraveenough.
- You can buy Dr. Sasha’s book, Between Grit and Grace: The
Art of Being Feminine and Formidable,
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