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The Refined Collective Podcast

Jan 19, 2021

Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!


If you’ve been listening to The Refined Collective for a long time, you’ll remember that this week’s guest is actually a repeat guest! Jasmine Star was on the podcast back on episode 009: Chasing Your Why: Career Pivots for the Creative Entrepreneur. This time, we’re talking about Jasmine’s decade-long journey to adopting her daughter.


Adoption: Shifting perspectives

  • Jasmine and her husband JD were in very different spots when they began their adoption journey. 
  • Jasmine reflects on the moment she and her husband became involved with the foster system.
  • You can volunteer with communities like National Angels and CASA to show children in the foster system that they are loved.
  • They ultimately adopted through a private adoption facilitated by lawyers.


  • “There are so many children who just need love and there’s people who are kind good souls who are saying ‘Well, you’re here with us. We’re going to love you.’”



The fears after adoption


  • “Am I brave enough to be vulnerable to love somebody who may look at me in the face and say ‘you are not my mom’ or ‘I don’t love you.’”


  • It’s a microcosm of loving in general: to open yourself up to love and unbelievable joy, you have to be open to the fear and potential heartache.



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