Dec 9, 2020
Thank you Newsstand Studio
at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this
episode for y’all! No more Brooklyn closet
I have been looking forward to
interviewing this guest ever since the Tik Tok algorithm graced me
with his videos. I am obsessed. Shaun
Galanos is a love coach
and he is very matter of fact about the dating questions he
receives. He answers questions with clarity and compassion. So
together, we collected some of your top dating questions and
answered them for you! From ghosting to cheating to finances, we
cover some pretty massive questions.
“Why do men ghost? Especially if the man asked for my
number and texted me.”
don’t want to have an uncomfortable conversation with
- That’s all they know how to do
want to ghost you before you ghost them
want to hurt you/make you sad
don’t want to hurt your feelings
“How do I manage finances in relationships when we have
different standards of spending habits?”
- Values around money and debt are important— you
should share those values.
money conversation can be a turnoff or red flag for someone if you
bring it up early on.
“How do you know if it’s the right person, just the
what you’re really asking is:
- “Am I
making the right choice? Is there better?” Stop
- “I’ve been rejected,
but should I just wait for them?” Move on! “If someone
says no, take it as a no, believe them, and let the universe sort
it out on the back end.”
“Can I build a relationship with someone I used to cheat
can do anything you want in life, but ask yourself “Is this good
are so many ways to view a situation like this, some are fantasies
and some are more riddled with problems.
it’s something you really want to pursue, go to counseling with
that person to work on how you can make this relationship
“Be honest, have you ever decided not to date a girl
because of her ethnicity?”
- Neither of us have not dated someone because of
share what I’ve noticed of my own behavior on dating apps when it
comes to race and how I’ve been reflecting on that and learning
what has influenced that behavior.
“How can I make the first move without being too
forward/intimidating as a woman?”
- “Just do it. Stop sitting on the sidelines hoping that he
notices you and just do it.”
time to move on from the whole “men are hunters and women are prey”
analogy, because guess what? Hunters don’t woo their
yourself what’s holding you back— are you afraid of asking because
you’re afraid of the answer?
“How do you date in 2020 when you really hate internet
yourself: what did people do before online dating became a
look down on the idea of being set-up!
used to saying hi to strangers.
“How can I get context when it’s basically over text due
- So I
guess we’ve all just forgotten about phone calls, huh? Pick up the
phone! You can get so much more context in a conversation when you
hear their voice.
know a lot of us feel safer over text, but it’s so
- Always make sure the big conversations are done
over the phone or in person.
“I like masturbation, but I’m worried I’m not going to
like sex when I get married.”
on masturbation now and worry about sex later. If you understand
your own pleasure, you are setting yourself up for some really
positive experiences with your partner.
- “Start talking about sex…so that it becomes a
natural part of your relationship.”
by Diana Richardson
explores the idea that you should
focus on your own pleasure and ask for what you want.
- ***None of this is possible without
“You will get more information when you ask for the
thing that you want.”
I was tired of hearing male
pastors preach about waiting until marriage for sex when they had
gotten married in their early 20s and had no idea what it was
really like to date in today’s culture! I wanted to hear from
someone in my shoes— so I wrote a book! It’s called
Sexless in the City: A Sometimes
Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and
Sex and it’s coming
out in April 2021! Head over
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