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The Refined Collective Podcast

Jan 22, 2020


Sliding into DMs is my favorite. Basically Instagram stalk people and ask them to be on my podcast. But you know what? It works! And now I have loads of virtual friends. Bam. Today, I’m am chatting with Stephanie May Wilson. She has such a heart for single women, so I am so excited for us to walk through some of the top questions that women send us every day.


DATING 101: Types + Deal Breakers

  • We chat about how guys are often more attractive in real life than in their online photos BUT if they say they are 6 feet tall, they are almost certainly a full two inches shorter.
  • We may have a type, but we have to stop making our searches so narrow—the perfect man may not be who you pictured him to be.


DATING 101: It’s A Curb, Not A Cliff

  • Real talk: we need to be as intentional about dating as we are with our career or fitness.
  • We chat about the pressure to have meet cutes and the number one frustration women come to her looking for answers to.
  • “You deserve someone who wants to be with you.”
  • What do you do with all this hope and confusion? Live this season of your life to the fullest. Show up!


DATING MYTH: There Are No Good Guys?

  • “There are better things we can do with that focus that actually get us to where we want to be.”
  • Find ways to put yourself out there more. Just get involved in your community.
  • Disappointment is part of the dating process. It’s getting you ready for marriage, which is signing up to be disappointed by the same person for your whole life.


Feeling discouraged? God hasn’t forgotten you. It isn’t too late. You are not less than others because you are single. You are not unlovable. You don’t have to figure this out alone. Keep up with Stephanie at, where you can find her podcast (Girls Night) and her Instagram (@smaywilson). She has a prayer journal called Every Single Moment—you can find it here!


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