Jul 23, 2018
Johan Khalilian has been a dear
friend for years, and today he is a guest on the podcast! He is a
person who fights for truth, and there isn’t a complacent bone in
his body. He continually challenges himself and those around
him to grow. He is a youth motivational speaker and has been for
fifteen years. Today we’re talking about God, faith, and the
deconstruction of sex.
Truth and Rebellion
- “Seeing God clearly is the point of
decided early on that he was never going to drink alcohol or do
drugs, because his uncle was an example of what that lifestyle
looked like and he didn’t want that for himself.
- He works to go
against what others expect of him. “I think we all have a
rebellious spirit in us.”
key is to know when it is the time to rebel.
- Society labels things good or bad for us, but
we need to learn to be comfortable enough in the grey area to
determine our own good and bad.
- “Truth is this thing we have to consistently be
The Superpower of Sex
- Seeing his uncle take advantage of women as a
child, Johan decided at a young age that he wasn’t going to be a
womanizer. He wanted sex to be meaningful. At the time it wasn’t a
faith-based decision, but a pure act of rebellion.
now teaches abstinence in the faith-based framework.
- “Wherever God is, I want to be.”
opens up about his experience having sex for the first time--and
the deconstruction after that. The realization of how much of
his identity was wrapped around his sex life--or lack there
acknowledge the fact that it is easy to feel shame when it comes to
sexual desire, but that is not a healthy way to live.
When You Stray
has had rollercoaster relationships with women, and his decision to
found himself in places of pain, hurt, and lacking
- “You just walk away still feeling
recognized that sex does not provide intimacy to his
opens up about the thought that maybe he is going to be single his
whole life, and what then?
Making Your Decision
- Sometimes you have to drop the “should” and
“shouldn’t” and evaluate your decision on a deeper
connect this back to a story of the time I was confronted with the
decision to smoke weed also.
- We talk about how
women and men experience the balance of relationships
Johan is such a gift and I am so
glad I had the opportunity to talk to him on the podcast. You can
keep up with him on Instagram, or at his website, www.johanspeaks.com. I hope this helped give you insight into how
variable the journey of abstinence can be. Remember, tribe, you are
not alone in this!
This episode is brought to you
by my very own PDF Guide called “While You Wait.” I made this resource guide to help guide
others in their journey to wait to have sex until marriage. I
remember feeling so lost on my “why” and these resources helped
guide me toward it and I hope they can provide guidance for y’all
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