Feb 12, 2019
I’ve been so excited to chat with Mike Aidala. Our schedules
finally aligned and we got to chat about physical fitness, toxic
masculinity, transformation, and fostering healthy dialogue. I’m so
challenged by all of his words. What if life wasn’t as hard as we
made it out to be?
- He decided after college that he would focus on strengthening
his whole self and becoming the best version of Mike Aidala.
- “I always knew that I had a real passion for
- He notes that his Instagram feed is a combination of strength
training videos and more emotional and spiritual movement videos,
like yoga acrobatics with his fiancée Chelsea.
- “I really love emotion and diving into the why
behind everything I do.”
- He enjoys athletics, but he is driven by the emotion behind all
of the activities. The connection he feels to the movement.
- “How can I better be completely engaged in this
- Mike notes that lifting somebody into the air isn’t all about
strength, it’s about developing trust and an emotional connection
with whoever you are lifting.
- Sometimes we can get so caught up in the big picture that we
forget to focus on the small everyday tasks and achievements that
get us to where we want to be.
- “That’s a dangerous word: only.”
- We need to celebrate the wins more. We can see room for
improvement everywhere, but we’ll never feel accomplished if we
don’t see all we have achieved.
- “When you fail, you’re growing.”
- Instead of a typical gratitude journal, Mike likes to write
down every day, “what went well and
On Fitness Goals…
- “You don’t really want to lose ten pounds, what you
want is maybe your kids to like you, be engaged with your husband
more, have better community with your friends. You think losing 10
pounds is going to get you those things. What we focus on is giving
you confidence, showing you you’re strong, building your
self-esteem. Before you know it, you’ve probably lost the ten
pounds anyway, but that isn’t what you come back for, you come back
because of the feeling you have.”
- We discuss toxic masculinity—something a lot of people love to
- “Being masculine isn’t toxic,” he
says. Masculinity can be toxic, but it isn’t inherently
- He recognizes that men do want to learn and be better in areas
but being yelled at does not foster that change. We have to dive in
to the hard conversations.
- Mike wants people to be open with each other. Open to
criticism, open to discussion.
- Men and women can create better relationships with each other
if they just communicate what they want.
- We talk about the danger of using the word ‘should.’
“’I want you to do this’ is a lot harder to say than
‘you should do this.’”
- He encourages men to reach out to the women in their life and
ask how they can support them.
So, friends, what if you sought to understand the people in your
life? What if you learned to listen? What if you practiced
You can keep up with Mika at @mike.aidala on
Instagram and his website at mikeaidala.com where you can find
his training programs.
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